Communication is fundamental in building honest, lasting relationships. Learning to communicate is a life lesson.
How often have you held back your thoughts or feelings, because you didn’t know how to communicate? You had a pretty good idea of what you wanted to say, but your emotions and thoughts were all jumbled up and you didn’t feel ready or confident. You were afraid you would not get your message through or that you would not be heard. So you distanced yourself from the person you really wanted to and needed to connect with to open the channels of communication – to relate. You did not include them in the process.
Fear, doubt, shame, and uncertainty are shadow energies that shut us down, and keep us from relating with others. We cannot open up because we are more concerned with what others will think about us and we are fearful they will divert us from our focus, influencing us to their way of thinking. We want desperately to stand our ground, to be heard, to feel appreciated and acknowledged. So we convince ourselves we need to make a decision on our own, distance ourselves as make a decision, and then drop the decision, like a bomb, on the other person who did not see this coming. They were never intended to part of the decision making process, just the recipient. When we do this to others, we have not respected them, or ourselves, enough to engage in conversation, communication, emotional, intellectual and spiritual growth. Had we shared our concerns, difficulties, desires and hopes with the other person, chances are the decision we made would have been the same, but it would have been compassionately with togetherness, not in isolation.
The lesson here is finding a voice and using it in a way the engages conversation with compassion, love and understanding.
Open the 5th chakra for honest communication and creative expression, to balance with the 4th chakra for compassion and love.
