We started this year discussing New Beginnings and the importance of letting go of the old to manifest something new. Undoubtedly you started out focused, disciplined and ready to change. By now though, you may have noticed an accumulation of unfinished stuff.
Unfinished refers to all the messed up areas in your life. Your closet, finances, relationships, health, purse, mind, emotions, etc. When these build up, we become overwhelmed and fearful. Fear enters quietly like a dark fog, breeding doubt and uncertainty, and a limiting pattern. We may experience a spiraling effect with the weight of excess baggage. If we do not acknowledge this pattern or trend for what it is, we may well become stuck in a negative pattern. Fear and doubt are the most common reasons we end up with unfinished stuff. “There’s too much to do.” “What if I do it wrong?” “What if I don’t like it when I’m done?” etc.
You can well imagine how draining this pattern is on your energy. We can accumulate so much unfinished stuff over the years that we feel like we are pulling a loaded truck behind us.
There a several ways to cope with the stress of unfinished stuff. Meditation helps us release negative thoughts, emotions, etc. But we need to align with our third chakra, into action. We need to find a peaceful place within ourselves where we can ‘be’ while we are doing.
First, identify where you are with your unfinished stuff first.
If you are in denial, you are not wanting to see or acknowledge what is going on, quietly hoping everything will disappear. Rather than acknowledge the pattern and changing it, you live in a fantasy world of illusion. For example, you see the mess piling up on your kitchen table. The mail, bills, newspapers, it’s your dump pile. Rather than create an organized system you simply hope it will sort itself out. Nothing every changes and you feel stressed every time you look at it.
You may be ‘hanging in there’. You manage to stay on top of things, and you aren’t falling behind, but you aren’t moving forward either. Here you generally feel stuck. You stay spinning slowly or treading water. Or, you may just stop and have a talk with yourself to move forward. Or….
You take charge of the situation and confront what needs to change. This is the most difficult action, but most rewarding in the long run because it means confronting the shadows within such as fear, judging, etc. You may ask yourself – What needs to change? What fear or doubt do I need to confront? Your happiness or unhappiness are directly linked to the choices you make in being the change. This is not about asking others to change, or blaming them or yourself. You need to be that change. We need to be that change together.
Unfinished becomes finished when we feel whole within ourselves and can look around our space with contentment. Remember, New Beginnings require we let go of the old before we create something new. Let’s make February the month for tidying up our inner and outer lives with renewed excitement. Take one step at a time and remain disciplined to experience order in your life.
