The Burden Basket –
The burden basket refers to an Ancient Native American tradition. Originally the burden basket was used by grandmothers to collect twigs and small pieces of wood to create fires, known as grandmother fires. The basket was carried on the back and was never too large to create a burden. The empty basket would be hung on the outside of the home as a reminder for guests to leave their personal problems in the basket before entering the sacred space of the home.
The symbolism of this tradition certainly has a place in our lives. Wouldn’t it be refreshing to know you could unload your burdens before you entered your home after a long hard day at work, or that you would know others wouldn’t drag their stuff into your space? Imagine how such a custom would allow us to enjoy the company of others. However, problems and burdens don’t just go away. They do offer opportunities to create or find solutions.
The burden basket wasn’t just about leaving your complaints and problems outside. The burden basket was also used by elders to provide assistance during difficult times. The equivalent today would be a counselor, therapist, or someone specializing in providing relief. More commonly though, people share with friends or loved ones, not always aware of the impact of their sharing.
It takes a very strong, empathic individual to not take on the burdens of others into their own heart.
Let’s look at a few ways to create boundaries.
- When you’re overwhelmed or heavily burdened first look to your inner strength for self-assurance. Trust you can find your own answers and solutions.
- Ask for help and/or advice when you need it.
- When you are confused and uncertain, and ask for advice, then listen and use the advice. Respect the wisdom of others and don’t waste their valuable time and energy if you’re not going to listen or use their advice.
- Don’t try to solve other people problems if they haven’t asked for help. You are taking away the opportunity for them to find the answers for themselves.
- Notice if any part of you feels more self-important because of your burdens.
- Practice listening with empathy to others, reminding yourself you don’t need to solve their problems, and don’t need to take on their stuff – refer to 4.
Open your heart and use your precious energy to make the changes from your inner self, knowing there are people and places that support you sharing, growing and healing.
VeraCity Newsletter is written by Regina Kaiser. Learn to manage your personal space with Veracis Meditation™ Level I